How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
My fantasy BDSM has been similar in many ways to the experiences I have had in the bedroom. I think the biggest difference has been the limits my body has placed on our play. Although I want to submit completely, I can’t always take as much pounding or pain as I would like to give. Because I played for so long on line, I have a very high ideal of how obedient I should be. I often find it hard to tell my real life limits because I feel like I am disappointing myself and my partner.