Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
I wish I could tell you what makes me interested in all this kinky shit. I wasn’t sexually abused. I didn’t have sex forced on me and I wasn’t raised with sexual guilt. I have loved the idea of submitting for as long as I can remember. My first experiences with sex were submissive.
I didn’t choose my kink. I’m lucky that my being a female submissive is socially acceptable. In America today, many men want a submissive woman in their bed. That makes life easier. Although I may bitch about having one more hurdle in the way while looking for love, I know that I have it relatively easy.
I could have been born with a fetish for bathroom play or sneezing and I would struggle more to find a partner. I wouldn’t be able to change who I am any more than I can change my submissive nature now. Although I don’t participate in all forms of kinky play, I know that most people haven’t chosen their kink anymore than I chose mine.
That makes it a lot easier to meet each person where they are without judgement.