It’s been almost 10 years since I went on a date. Don’t get me wrong. I have dated people but we kind of fell into bed together without the awkward dating part.
I was incredibly nervous to meet a guy I found on Fetlife. Surprisingly, I didn’t tell one girlfriend or family member that I was going on a date. (I did tell a Dom and he knew where I would be.) I am a perpetual realist, some may call it pessimism, and I assumed this wouldn’t work out.
I arrived at the bar 10 minutes early. I sat in the parking lot for a few minutes and then ran inside for a drink. A car pulled up as I passed through the lot and I knew it was him. I ordered a drink from the bar and headed towards a seat.
He immediately recognized me as I walked by and we sat down. We talked about family and kinks. We talked about where he was raised and his music taste. He was calm. I was shaking.
We went to my place after. Should I have slowed things down? We started watching a movie but I am not sure how it ended. We kissed and he kissed my neck.
I had to take a deep breath and ask him to slow down. He was very receptive but also aggressive.