Today, I was defending sex workers in a conversation with some friends. They didn’t know that I am in the sex industry. I didn’t know that I cared what they thought. I have always believed that accepting money for sex is moral because there are some people who for whatever reason cannot get what they need. They aren’t bad people. They don’t deserve to be alone. They deserve to get sex if they can.
I don’t know most of my customers. Some are cheap jerks who just repeat phrases that I don’t really understand, “open chest baby” or “me hard want you sexy”. I can easily justify getting paid to deal with their confusing, demeaning, and annoying banter.
But many of my customers are fun and some are becoming friends. I look forward to talking to them. I get wet from the things we do. I almost feel bad taking their money. It almost feels like it is unethical to take money when I know them so well. It feels like maybe a pleasurable exchange should be free…
Is it ethical to take money from a sexual exchange? Is it more or less ethical for one party to accept money when both are enjoying the act?