Although I believe that feeling someone deeply lusting partially draws me to this lifestyle, I like even more that I will be told how to be pleasing. I am happy about the expectation for open communication because I will not have to second guess my choices. I am excited about knowing what the dominant thinks and wants because I will be taught. I will know how to please my partner.
But most of all, I love the loss of control. I have always liked that a Master could control a submissive’s urge to cum and could stop or force them to cum on command. I also liked the dominant’s rules and punishments but I didn’t really see the Master’s rules as something that I HAD to obey. Up until this point, I chose to obey the rules because I liked them. I would have cum without permission because I didn’t see the risk in breaking a rule. I realize that my choice not to submit to a command breaks the foundation of the relationship.
A submissive must follow every rule because if the submissive does not value the rules, the dominant looses control. To submit, I have to submit completely to Master’s control. If I hold back at all, I will still hold control. I need to see each rule as something that I would do anything to avoid breaking or Master will not control me which is the foundation of the Master/ slave relationship.
- The BDSM Ritual (mlbk7.wordpress.com)
- Interview: ‘Kink’ Director Christina Voros Discusses S&M In The Bedroom & The Boardroom (movieline.com)
- Bdsm 101 (tracialaina.wordpress.com)